When men do not know their their own inner lives, and so cannot register when they might need to make changes to support their mental health, they are more vulnerable to mental illness. Is there something distinctive about the ways in which men don't know themselves--something in the way that they are raised--that we might be able to change?
One of the things that we can do is to start begin early, by supporting little boys in remaining alive to their emotions. To do so it to move against the current of the culture, which in myriad ways, discourages boys and those who care for them to risk the change. This piece, "Talking to Boys the Way We Talk to Girls," published in The New York Times last summer explores this conundrum.